Are you interested in engaging in some female domination (femdom)?
You are certainly in for a very exciting experience. However, being involved in femdom is very different from a traditional relationship.
In femdom, the dynamics are flipped, and you become the dominated instead of the dominator.
For some people, flipping the dynamics like this can be intoxicating.
Like anything in the sexual realm, though, female domination requires you to be clued up on what you are getting involved with.
While most of the experts you might hire on the various femdom personals out there will be happy to lend some advice, they do not expect a total novice. At the very least, you should turn up with a bit of an understanding of the world of female domination.
This is what this post is for!
The following article is a guide to femdom for beginners, and an introduction to this new and exciting world. Arming yourself with the femdom facts in this post will set you up for a wealth of unforgettable experiences that you’re going to want to recreate over and over again.
Femdom for Beginners – An Introduction to Female Domination
Femdom is not an escort service
The first fact to keep in mind is that hiring a femdom is not like hiring an escort. There is absolutely no obligation for the domme to allow things to get sexual – in fact, most femdoms have strict limits to how far things can go.
You are paying for for a sexualised experience, not an actual sexual encounter.
When hiring a dominatrix, always read the website of any femdom that you hire so you understand what they do and do not offer. This avoids miscommunication and minimises the risk of disappointment.
Femdom is International
When it comes to kinks and sexual openness, most assume that America – the land of freedom, as they say – is the market leader.
While around 42% of people surveyed in the US admit to having tried out femdom and other BDSM experiences, the US falls behind Brazil (43%) and Germany (47%).
Other countries with a high level of interest in this field include Sweden, Spain, and the UK, all of which have over 40% of those asked saying they have tried out a femdom or BDSM dating experience.
No matter where in the world you are, you should be able to find someone who is into the same things that you are!
You are never too old to start
While the average age of someone participating in a femdom experience for the first time is around 22, you are never too old to get involved!
Some people only realise they want to enjoy the femdom experience in their 30s, 40s, or even later!
There is absolutely nothing wrong, or any taboo, with someone aged 40+ trying out a femdom experience.
You might find that getting involved in femdom opens up other pathways in terms of your sexual identity, too. Most people who get involved with BDSM and femdom activities tend to be more sexually inventive, and open to experimenting with different kinks and practices.
Whether you are in your early 20s and know this is for you, or you are in your 50s and are unsure, you can have lots of fun finding out!
You are not ‘weird’ for trying out femdom
You might think that your desires are unique or strange. You might even worry that you might struggle to find someone to give you the femdom experience that you are searching for.
That, though, is not the case.
As we touched on earlier, more than 40% of US citizens have tried out a ‘kink’ experience, like BDSM or femdom, at least once.
There are many people from all walks of life with an interest in femdom. It is increasingly common for people higher up the financial food chain – often in management positions themselves – to want to try out femdom experiences.
There is nothing ‘weird’ about wanting to try out new sexual experiences, and the the range and variety of people who are involved might surprise you! It is highly likely that someone you know has tried out (or intends to try out), femdom: it is far more popular than you would first imagine.
Once you start, it can be difficult to stop
Many people go into a femdom experience with natural uncertainty and trepidation. However, it is very common for people who try out femdom to find that they love the experience! Once you start, you might join the average of 60% of people who regularly incorporate female domination into their lives.
Femdom might not be your main form of sexual gratification. You might choose to make this a one-off experience each month while you enjoy your ‘normal’ sex life at home. You might even make this your stress release during challenging points during the year.
However, 6 of 10 people who try out the femdom experience will return more regularly; once you start, you can’t stop!
Remember, you can say no
If you are involved in a femdom experience that is properly managed, you are always in a position whereby you can say no when things get a little bit too heavy.
This is entirely your right.
If you feel like things are getting out of hand during a femdom experience, you are entitled to ask for the individual to slow down, or stop the experience completely.
A real femdom will always put in place safe words that allow you to end the experience if it gets too much.
Yes, the domination is all part of the fun, and the experience is all about being taken to – and sometimes beyond – your limits.
Still, it can get too much for some, especially at first. A professional femdom, though, will understand that the experience has to be enjoyed, not endured.
Ready to see for yourself?
Hopefully this guide has given you a bit of clarity on femdom and what you can expect if you decide to dip your toe into the world of female domination.
Of course, this is only a starting point, but if you think you’re ready to experience femdom first-hand, there are certainly plenty of places, both online and offline, where you can start.
Femdom personals such as the one we mentioned earlier can connect you with nearby dommes, and you can also research local dungeons and ‘adult’ clubs in your area. Lastly, webcam models often offer femdom services, which can be ideal if you’re nervous about meeting somebody in person.
Above all, remember to always stay safe, never agree to anything that makes you uncomfortable, and that you can withdraw consent at any time!
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