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11 Signs a Virgo Man is Not Serious About You

signs a virgo man is not serious about you

If you type ‘signs a Virgo man is not serious about you‘ into Google, you’ll find that most of the results are forums teeming with people who seem to really despite Virgo men. I ended up down some deep rabbit holes while researching this article, and I was shocked by the vitriol displayed towards Virgo men!

Describing them as being controlling, manipulative, cruel, and even as narcissists, it really seems as though the internet has a problem with Virgo men.

As a Virgo woman, I share many characteristics with my male counterparts, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

Like a Virgo man, I am practical and discerning when it comes to love, I have a bit of a ‘fixer’ mentality, and I’ve been known to hold my romantic partners up to a rather high standard.

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To other signs, Virgos can be enigmas when it comes to love. We crave stability and intellectual connection, but our analytical minds and perfectionist tendencies can sometimes overshadow our emotions.

As a Virgo woman, I’ve decided to explore how Virgos show up in relationships, and how to spot the signs a Virgo man is not serious about you.

So, if you’re wondering whether a Virgo man sees you as long-term material, just keep reading. Here are the astrological cues that might signal a Virgo man doesn’t see you as a potential partner.

Virgo Men in Relationships

Virgo men, ruled by the communicative planet Mercury, approach dating with a thoughtful, analytical mind.

As an earth sign, Virgo men are pragmatic, and are what you may call ‘slow burners.’

They approach relationships with caution, and perhaps even a dash of cynicism. They are also naturally independent and don’t need anyone to survive, a lot like Aquarius men.

A Virgo man will typically ask a lot of questions during early dates, because their practical and analytical minds want to establish whether the two of you are compatible. They are the type to evaluate romantic potential based on how many metaphorical boxes you tick rather than how they feel when they’re around you, and they’re prone to doubt when it comes to whether the person they’re with is right for them.

A Virgo man values shared goals, open communication, and loyalty over everything (much like a Taurus man).

Virgo men also love to help. They will do everything in their power to make your life easier, and they also love giving advice (even when you don’t ask for it!). Virgo men value acts of service over grand gestures, so he’s much more likely to surprise you by deep-cleaning the kitchen than by buying you a dozen red roses!

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11 Signs a Virgo Man is Not Serious About You

1. Diminishing affection

Known for their nurturing nature, Virgo men often express affection through thoughtful actions and attentive touches. When a Virgo is smitten, he’ll go the extra mile to make sure you feel cherished and cared for. However, a shift in his physical attentiveness, from cuddly embraces to a more distant demeanour, could signal a change in his feelings for you.

2. Emotionally unavailable

Virgos tend to overthink things and analyse situations, which can make them slow to open up emotionally. They also have very high standards when it comes to their romantic partners. This can be a positive trait, but it can also make them hesitant to fully open up until they feel certain that their partner is the one for them.

If a Virgo man is emotionally reserved and refraining from sharing his feelings with you, it could mean he’s not sure about the relationship.

3. Ghosting champion

Look out for a shift in communication. If he used to enjoy lengthy conversations and now seems disinterested in your day-to-day life, or if his responses to texts become increasingly delayed, it could be a bad sign.

Virgo men are known for appreciating good conversation, so a sudden drop off with minimal explanation might indicate waning interest.

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4. He asks for space

Craving solitude is normal, but a Virgo who prioritises spending all his free time alone or with friends, consistently excluding you, might be keeping you at a distance.

Virgos are selective with their time, and if you’re not included in his plans, it could be a sign he doesn’t see the relationship progressing. Additionally, pay attention to how he introduces you to others. Does he shy away from mentioning your title as his girlfriend or partner? If he avoids labels or introduces you vaguely, it might indicate a hesitation to invest fully in the relationship.

5. Flaky and unreliable

Reliability is a hallmark of a Virgo man. They thrive on routine and keeping their commitments. So, if your Virgo guy starts cancelling plans more often, habitually showing up late, or becoming generally flaky, it could be a significant red flag.

This shift in behaviour might indicate a decline in his interest and a potential emotional withdrawal from the relationship.

6. He suddenly becomes very critical

Virgos are known for being prone to criticism, but if his comments are becoming increasingly nitpicky and hurtful, it may signal that he’s losing interest.

Pay attention to the tone and content of his remarks. Is he coming from a good place and providing constructive advice, or does his criticism feel needlessly harsh?

A Virgo genuinely invested in the relationship will offer helpful critiques, not resort to negativity that pushes you away.

7. Not making future plans

Virgos are ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication, and they love planning for the future.

This inherent pragmatism often translates into their relationships, and a Virgo man who’s invested in you will naturally incorporate you into his vision for the future. He’ll initiate conversations about upcoming events, trips you could take together, or even long-term goals you might share.

However, if your Virgo man has gone radio silent on future plans, avoiding any discussions that extend beyond the immediate present, it might indicate hesitation or a lack of commitment on his part.

Remember, for a Virgo, including you in his future is a powerful sign that he sees you as a permanent fixture in his life, not a temporary stop.

8. He doesn’t help or advise you

Virgos, with their analytical minds and nurturing natures, often take great satisfaction in helping others.

This might manifest in them offering advice when you haven’t even asked for it, but it stems from a genuine desire to see you succeed.

If a Virgo man is serious about you, he’ll be your biggest cheerleader, offering support and solutions during challenging times. He’ll lend a listening ear to your problems and brainstorm potential solutions with you.

However, if your Virgo man suddenly stops offering help or unsolicited advice (even if it bordered on criticism at times!), it might indicate a decline in his interest.

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9. He doesn’t ask you questions

Virgo men love to analyse and dissect, and in the early stages of a relationship, they might delve deep, asking a multitude of questions to understand your life, values, and interests. This intense curiosity stems from their desire to assess compatibility and build a strong foundation.

If your Virgo partner who once bombarded you with questions has become tight-lipped and disinterested in learning more about you, it might indicate a change of heart. Remember, Virgos genuinely invested in a relationship will continue to ask questions and show curiosity about your life, even as the relationship deepens.

10. He doesn’t make the effort

Virgo men can be detail-oriented, but if he puts in minimal effort to see you, plan dates, or even return texts promptly, it suggests he’s not prioritizing the relationship.

Virgos put considerable thought and effort into the things they care about, which can make them wonderful partners.

A Virgo man who is serious about you will make an effort to see you regularly, plan thoughtful dates, and be an excellent communicator. If your Virgo partner is putting minimal effort into the relationship, it might indicate that they aren’t as serious about you as you may want them to be.

11. He flirts with other women

Unlike some signs who crave constant attention or flirtation (Leo men, I’m looking at you), Virgos are known for their loyalty and commitment in relationships.

Displaying flirtatious behaviour or pursuing connections with others is one of the biggest signs a Virgo man is not serious about you.

Signs a Virgo Man is Not Serious About You | Final Thoughts

While these signs could indicate a Virgo man’s waning interest, it’s important to remember that they don’t guarantee anything. Open and honest communication is always the best course of action, and if you’re concerned about your relationship, express your feelings and try to understand his perspective.

Ultimately, a healthy relationship requires effort from both partners.

If a Virgo man is truly invested, he’ll be willing to put in the work to address your concerns and build a strong foundation together. However, if the all the signs are pointing towards a lack of commitment, it might be time to prioritise your own well-being and consider moving forward.